A heart divided

Some of the best things come at the end of September.

Two years ago, that was my favorite football team triumphing over my next-to-least favorite team. I was in Bryant-Denny Stadium on Oct. 1, 2005, when Alabama defeated Florida, 31-3. I joined in proudly as members of the student section began the tomahawk chop. A girl nearby asked, “Why are we doing this? We’re not Seminoles!” A friend of mine replied (with pride), “Some of us are.”

Florida is the foe of my other favorite team, Florida State. In four years of picking college football games, I always pick according to loyalty. I think it’s morally wrong to derive some benefit from your team’s loss. That’s why in four years of competing in my college football pick ’em, I have yet to pick against either Alabama or Florida State. Until this week, that philosophy has served me well.

Today, that all changes.

My two alma maters meet tonight for their first contest in 33 years–and they’re doing it in my hometown. When the game was announced two years ago, my first thought was that I HAD to find tickets. My second was that I had to choose sides.

It’s a lose/lose or win/win situation, depending on your outlook. I could easily cheer for my undergrad team. Some people think that’s the only way to go! That was the school where I grew up, where I met some of my very closest friends, where I once danced on the 50 yard line. On my first visit to Florida State, back in 1993, I was impressed by the campus bowling alley and the fact that I could buy a Seminole keychain with my name on it. When I enrolled six years later, the campus captured my heart.

But my heart wasn’t free for the taking. I had promised it to Alabama football before I even knew what a first down was. I grew up wearing crimson. After Florida-Alabama games, we would run to the front yard and yell “Roooooooooooooooll tide! Roll!” in our loudest voices, taunting our neighbors with their Gator flag. When my dad began explaining the concept of first and 10, I was hooked. I remember watching a game while my sisters were supposed to be upstairs cleaning. “Why doesn’t she have to help?” they whined. “Because she’s watching football with me.”

On one level, my heart breaks at having to choose one team over another. But in truth, I’ve had my No. 1 team all along. You can’t turn your back on your roots, on your family, on a way of life you’ve known longer than memory serves. Which is why tonight, I’ll stand proudly in my crimson and white, screaming loudly for the Tide.

“There are two major theories of fandom, as far as I can tell: the Childhood Theory and the Undergrad Theory. Some people would argue that you lock yourself into a team for life when you decide to go to school there, no matter who you liked before.

“But these people also wouldn’t understand why a child who was not quite 8 could learn the meaning of despondence by watching an undefeated football team lose to its rival, or why, even decades later, you would still get a chill up your spine every time you see Jay Barker lead a comeback against Georgia, or why watching George Teague strip the ball from a Miami wide receiver still ranks among the Top 5 best moments in life.

“The Undergrad Theorists surely are good people, and no doubt they mean well. But they don’t understand football, because they don’t understand Alabama football.“Roll Damn Tide.”

–My friend Chris, in an e-mail to me, after I sent him my picks for the week

GAME DAY round-up

What might have been (Tuscaloosa News)

Chris Walsh: Neutral site games coming back in style (Tuscaloosa News)

T-News staff picks (Tuscaloosa News)

Red Tide in Jacksonville for game, too (Press-Register)

‘Noles love lost for Tiders once fond of FSU (Birmingham News)

Kevin Scarbinsky: For Seminoles, the ’90s are a long time ago (Birmingham News)

Dennis Pillion: Strength vs. strength: Bama offense vs. FSU defense (al.com)

Paul Gettis: So much anticipation (al.com)
Two big programs, one huge game (Florida Times-Union)

FSU-Alabama predictions (Florida Times-Union)

Game vs. Alabama triggers memories (Tallahassee Democrat)

River City magical for the Seminoles (Tallahassee Democrat)

Florida’s largest city has something for all (Tallahassee Democrat)

Florida State Seminoles vs. Alabama Crimson Tide (Tallahassee Democrat)

Friday round-up

The article of the day:
Crimson Tide or garnet ‘Noles? Former FSU and UA student will face true test of loyalty Saturday (Crimson White)

Players, coaches linked to Bowden (Crimson White)

Alabama vs. Florida State Breakdown (Crimson White)

Win could return Florida State to relevance (Florida Times-Union)

Noles line-up still up in the air (Tallahassee Democrat)

Semi-homecoming (Tuscaloosa News)

Thursday roundup

Saban may regret mentoring Fisher (Birmingham News)

Crossing paths again (Florida Times-Union)

Bowden, West Virginia special for ‘Bama coach (Florida Times-Union)

Cecil Hurt: Big wins outside SEC far between (Tuscaloosa News)

Crimson ties run deep (FSView & Florida Flambeau)

Turning the Tide (FSView & Florida Flambeau)

Don’t give up yet (FSView & Florida Flambeau)

Huntsvillian recalls a kid named Bobby Bowden (Huntsville Times)

I’m leaving for Tallahassee tonight, then driving on to Jacksonville in the morning. Expect big things tomorrow…

Heartbreak Week begins

My friends in my college football pick ’em have dubbed this my heartbreak Week. Saturday will be the first time in my lifetime that my two favorite football teams go head to head–and they’re doing it in my hometown.

I’m sure I’ll have more to say on the subject later, but for now, a round up of articles I’ve read on the subject so far.

SUNDAY
‘Bama answers FSU’s call (Tallahassee Democrat)

MONDAY
Bowden has mixed feelings about Bama Bowl (Birmingham News)

‘Noles like neutral sites (Tallahassee Democrat)

FSU has strong ties to Saban (Tallahassee Democrat)

TUESDAY
Ties to Tallahassee (Tuscaloosa News)

Saban wary of offense for ‘Noles (Tallahassee Democrat)

Saban recalls Bowden’s offer (Tallahassee Democrat)

“The best thing that never happened to me” (Birmingham News)

No slowdown for football showdown (Birmingham News)

A look at Bobby Bowden’s career (Birmingham News) Sept. 25

No time like the present for Bowden (Florida Times-Union)

Tale of the tape: state of Florida vs. Alabama (Florida Times-Union)

No time like the present for Bowden (Florida Times-Union)

Florida State week (The Rap Sheet, blog of the Birmingham News’ Alabama beat writer)

Young boy, you done me bad, I went and did you wrong

It feels like everyone around me is a bit pre-occupied with their singleness right now. I’ll admit I am. It’s not that the end goal of my every day is to find a man, but I have found myself thinking more and more lately that it would be nice to have a boyfriend.

Dating, job hunting and apartment/roommate hunting are (to me) their own sort of trinity. Each is incredibly difficult to figure out, takes a certain amount of networking and has a profound impact on your life. I’ve got the job and worked out now–and believe me, both of those were a long time coming!

But for eight months I’ve been working in a job I love with people I adore. I genuinely look forward to work every day, and the rare days when I’d rather stay home are because I’d rather be reading. They don’t reflect on the job at all. Two weeks ago I moved into a precious one bedroom apartment that you may have to some day throw me out of. It’s the perfect size for me and my cat, and I am thoroughly enjoying wandering around talking to myself. There aren’t pictures on the walls and my books are still out of order, but I’m on the way to putting it all together.

Dating is, as always, another story. Perhaps because we’re in our midtwenties and single, my girl friends and I spend a lot of time talking about guys. It’s a phase that I hope doesn’t last forever, but that I’m thoroughly embracing right now. (Uncertainty can be fun if you allow it to be!) There are guys asking us out, talking to us, some that we’re interested in, some that we’re not… it’s a good place to be.

But why let the fun stop there, right? Several of my friends are giving Internet dating a shot, and one friend and I have decided to blog about our experiences. It’s a three month commitment, and I can’t say I’m the most optimistic gal in the world when it comes to the Internet. However, I’m willing to give it an honest chance… and put it on display for the world to read.

Soon this will change just like the seasons

I know become especially obnoxious as July approaches each year. But birthdays are a big deal to me. My first memory is of my fourth birthday (when my parents gave me the Care Bear movie stoundtrack). I remember planning my birthday parties in elementary school so the maximum number of friends would be able to attend. (Anyone whose birthday falls near or on a holiday can relate to that, I’m sure.) As I drove across town this week, I got to thinking about my favorite birthdays. I’ll just share two, both from recent years.

I celebrated my 23rd birthday with 45 people I’d known for only four weeks, plus my best friend who was briefly visitng the town I worked in that summer. Because no one knew me all that well at that point, I organized my own small birthday shindig. Probably 15 or 20 people came to a cook out by my apartment, and my sweet roommates gave me a jewelry box I still use and cards I’ve still saved.

A canoe trip I’d planned for after the cook out fell through. Instead I played volleyball, went swimming and got ice cream with a smaller group (which is generally my preference anyway). We were laid-back, without the noise of a large crowd or the stress of detailed plans. We simply enjoyed each other, and that’s one of the best gifts I could receive.

Last year was, unexpectedly, one of my favorite birthdays. I had been “dumped” (for lack of a more specific descriptor) a week before, and my original plan had been to spend the weekend in Florida with him.

Instead, I spent the night of my birthday at a concert where the singer dedicated the best song to me. (“I’m the icing on the cake/I’m the secret ingredient you’re missing”) My sister and several of my girl friends rallied around me.

Since my weekend plans had been destroyed, one of my best guy friends insisted on arranging a small gathering instead. Without me even needing to ask if she would come, a new girl friend insisted on driving an hour to join in (even though she had already celebrated my birthday once). We went with a handful of friends to dinner and out for a drink afterward. It was a low-key birthday, and one of few times I felt that someone cared enough and got me enough to make me feel cared for on my birthday.

Here’s to another year (and to one that doesn’t utilize a song about a break up for as its theme!).

Maybe someday, someday I’m gonna settle down

I could watch “You’ve Got Mail” nearly every day. Ask Alisa – I have no idea how many times she came home to find me watchign her DVD back when we were roommates.

I’ve watched this movie enough that I find myself reciting lines along with Meg and Tom, and thinking of it whenever I hear Joni Mitchell sing the line “I wish I had a river I could skate away on.”

“I wanted it to be you. I wanted it to be you so badly.”

The problem with “You’ve Got Mail” is that after watching it, I always want to go online and find me a man. (“Don’t you just love New York in the fall? It makes me want to buy school supplies. I would send you a bouquet of newly sharpened pencils if I knew your name and address.” Makes me melt every time. The only problem is that a woman wrote those words. And well, I guess that’s not the only problem. There’s that whole “it’s a movie” thing, too.)

What I didn’t really think of until this viewing, after roughly eight years of watching, is that it’s not just random Internet guy that this movie makes me want to fall in love with. It’s random Internet guy who I happen to fall for “in real life” also. Which of course circles back to the ultimate movie-romance problem: “When Harry Met Sally.”

It’s all about ending up with your best friend. Every time I watch that movie, I want 11 years. I want dates with other people and break ups and getting to know you all over again and platonic phone calls and time spent together until one day it all clicks. “When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with someone, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” I’m not quite to 11 years with anyone but neither am I holding my breath.

It’s all Nora Ephron’s fault.